The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays and Stories Hardcover – April 8, 2014

I rarely post book reviews; however, after reading THE OPPOSITE OF LONELINESS: ESSAYS AND STORIES by Marina Keegan, I felt compelled to do so. Sadly, the sublimity of Keegan's writing is nearly overshadowed by the tragic automobile accident that took her life at the age of 23. I say "nearly" because it would be a disservice to what was her emerging literary genius to focus on anything but her precocious talent. And I know that "genius" is a strong word to use for such a young writer who was only on the cusp of what promised to be not only an accomplished writing career but, based on her stories and essays, an extraordinary life well-examined, well-chronicled, and well-lived. I'm saddened to think of the keen observations of and insights into life Keegan would have provided us and posterity as she moved through her youth and into middle age and beyond, and I mourn for that loss as well.Her bio identifies Keegan as "an award-winning author, journalist, playwright, poet, actress, and activist." She had already interned at the Paris Review, been published in the New York Times, and was poised to begin a prestigious job at the New Yorker. For most, these would be crowning achievements, not resume builders. In my years as a high school literature and composition teacher, I've had fewer than a handful of students like Keegan, students whom, both I and they knew, were already better readers, thinkers, and writers than me and for whom the best I could do was not to get in their way, and the best they could do was to humor me. Keegan reminds me of those few students.Although the quality of her stories and essays is uneven, not atypical of such a young writer, Keegan's insights into human motivations and behaviors are poignantly spot on, whether the protagonist is college-aged, like the narrator of "Cold Pastoral" or an elderly widow as in "Reading Aloud." In the former story, a college senior is considering breaking up with her boyfriend, Brian, who had only recently ended another long term relationship, when she receives news that he has died in a car accident. She is contacted byBrian's ex, who asks her to retrieve his diary from his room on-campus, fearful of what intimate and potentially-embarrassing details might fall into his parents' hands should they recover it first. In this and her other stories, Keegan makes no attempt to gloss over the high frequency of sexual activity and substance abuse on college campuses. Awkwardly for the narrator, Brian's parents, although they barely know her, request that she deliver one of the eulogies at his funeral. After she successfully smuggles the diary from Brian's room, she reads from it only to learn that he had regrets over breaking up with his previous girlfriend and doubts as to the narrator's worthiness, which only further complicates her feelings towards him, her self-image, and her role as eulogist. My favorite story of the collection is titled "Reading Aloud." It's the story of a widower who volunteers to read to the blind. She is assigned to young man who lives alone in an apartment and who mostly asks her to read utilitarian text which he would transpose onto his computer and into braille on his specialized printer for his later usage. The hook is that as she reads, she performs a deliberate striptease - one item of clothing at a time - until she is reading to him while entirely naked. In the presence of this young man, who is unable to see the effects that aging has wrought on her body, she feels sexy and alive again, just as she had felt when young and naked in the presence of her now deceased husband. It is a powerful story of longing and loss for both the blind man and the widow.The essays reveal Keegan's insatiable curiosity with seemingly all things and her remarkable breadth of interests and knowledge. The topics range from a hilarious and heartfelt recounting of her relationship with her first car in "Stability in Motion," to a touching plea for compassion for all creatures, human and animal, in "Why We Care About Whales," to a hilarious yet profoundly sad character sketch of a Chicago-based exterminator in "I Kill for Money." In both her fiction and her essays, Keegan's keen skills of observation and her ability to capture in words the nuances of being human in an all-too-often inhumane world is on full display. Her mastery of language, both literal and figurative, is apparent throughout, and her themes strike upon universal chords.I highly recommend THE OPPOSITE OF LONELINESS for all ages of readers. The title betrays Keegan's most wished for condition, which despite her clearly-privileged upbringing and any number of available opportunities to pursue careers that promised wealth and status, she had little-to-no interest in, for she knew that the opposite of loneliness was not to be found in either. She intuitively understood that both money and status were empty goals and false gods that, in the end, would have cost her soul, not nourished it. Unquestionably for the attainment of her own hopes and dreams, Marina Keegan died too young but not so young that she was unable to leave an indelible mark on the hearts, minds, and souls of those fortunate enough to discover this one collection of priceless insight into the precious gift that is life. Though not enough, it will have to do.Ty Roth is the author of the young adult novels So Shelly and Goodness Falls

It's tragically sad, that she was called home at 22. I'm not going to use words like connections, entitlement, privileged or call her work immature or label her the best student in an undergrad writing class in my review.Rather I'm going to look at this using three criteria that Rita Crowley a fiery 50 year English Lit teacher/Professor, used in a writing class I took back in my college days.Passion, be a wordsmith, and no piece is ever really complete, where the three things that she pounded into my head, that semester. All of which Marina had from reading, her life work collection.She wasn't college-talented, but rather talented period, she had the knack to grab the reader, hold their attention and make you want to read more.I was one of the millions who were inspired by her 'Opposite of Loneliness' essay, even joined Yale Daily News website, just to read the pieces they featured on the site of her work. Even have tucked away somewhere printed copies of them.I read many articles, just to see if they posted links to essays/short stories I hadn't read. I've read most of this book already as individual pieces, but still enjoyed re-reading her work and several also are different versions.I like the entire collection, it's because of Marina that I started to read short stories, previously I never bother with them, and she opened my eyes to realize just what I was missing out on by not reading them.I'd like to think she's old school, she's not like most in her generation and worked extremely hard for everything she earned. Took full advantage of everything surrounding her in her short life, was a sponge and if she didn't know something, she wanted to know the answer.She opened the doors, no one threw them open for her. She made herself get noticed, to stand out in crowd and confidently make the New Yorker know she was the best choice, to do a prestigious internship. Let herself be nurtured, was her own worst critic, and made her professors pass on or share her essays/short stories.I know from my paying job, each year we have four interns that changes yearly. I've worked their 18 years, it's scary to me how many of these privileged people never took advantage of that fact, but I've worked with one whose parents were billionaires, you would never have known that if she didn't tell you, another while going through 8 years of college became a millionaire by dabbling with stocks, another flipped houses to pay for her college years and had the pleasure to work with several dozens, who while deep in debt earned everything they had through their own hard work.Being a lifelong reader I feel cheated, that we never got to see this talented writer grow, see her develop into a best selling author, to have the chance to pre-order them on amazon, to either have a bookshelf full of her books or a collection of her work on my Kindle.Surely she would have been loved by her readers, like Robert B. Parker, Robert Ludlum or Terry C. Johnston are.Her legacy will be her writing, those who she's posthumously inspired will never let the light she lite ever burn out and will share this collection of her writing, to inspire future generations.Lastly a huge thank you, to her parents, her friends, her professors, the Yale Daily news and everyone else who made this collection available for use.

A few months ago a friend of mine read an essay online called, The Opposite of Loneliness. He said it was deeply moving and made him think about his own life; he also told me to read it and I told him I would... but as usual I completely forgot about it. It wasn't until the #SassyBooks book club announced that their September read was a book of the same name that I remembered it and decided to look it up. No surprise that they were one in the same!Marina Keegan is described as an American author that passed away five days after graduating from college in 2012, but she is more than that. The Opposite of Loneliness is a collection of her short stories and personal essays, all of which were chosen by Anne Fadiman (her college professor and friend) after Marina's death. She is remembered as the talented writer that died after her graduation, but for me that doesn't do her justice. She wasn't just a writer, she was a story-teller, she had, and still has, the capability to draw people into a world and make them feel, she has the power to delve into the mind of a complete stranger and make it feel like you are the only person in the world that matters. She is not her death, she is her words, her beautiful descriptions, her understanding of the human soul, and so much more.What is it aboutThe book is a collection of short stories and essays, all of which explore human emotion; from the old woman that strips off to read to a blind man, to Marina's personal essay on having Celiac disease, each piece leaves you feeling - feeling what? Well, that's up to the individual reader, but for me, the more I read on, the more I wanted to escape my life and become a better human.Within the short amount of space that we are given to learn about her characters, their lives and their stories, we end up learning more about ourselves through their very creation. What would we do in that situation? How would we react to this? and most importantly, how will our present effect our future?In the short story, Reading Aloud is the line 'aging is harder for beautiful people' and a first I thought nothing of it, but I came back to it and I kept coming back to it. She was right. In those six words, in a singular short story, she has opened up an entire world of debate, understanding and discovery. Whether she knew it or not, Marina was a genius.

I haven't read all of this book yet and I'm not sure that I would sit down and read it all back to back but I love to dip in and out of the book. Personally I prefer the non-fiction and the title essay is a perfect description of how scary and exciting the end of university can be. This book came to me at just the right time as I was finishing university and starting my career!

Everyone should read the Opposite of Loneliness. The title essay "The Opposite of Loneliness" literally sums up every feeling that I had post- uni but have probably spent the last two years since graduating wishing I was back. Marina was well beyond her years in that she realised that life would still be as fun as when at uni as long as you don't live in that post-uni regret phase. Something I think she wouldn't have done had her life not been cut so short.It should be on every university reading list - especially her article titled "Even Artichokes have Doubts" which applies to Yale and the consultancy industry but could equally be applied to any university or college anywhere in the world.Her short stories were well written and typical of a 22 year old as she wrote about what she knew. They were easily identifiable and thought provoking.

Nice book for writers...

This is such a fantastic book and I read it in a day. The writer had so much talent and I'm glad that despite what happened, her writing was made available for us to read. Thank you for doing this.