Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Is a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse Kindle Edition

This book was recommended by our therapist. This is an absolute relationship must have if your significant other is a survivor! The amount of knowledge gained by reading this is so helpful during the process. It helps with self awareness as well. The books heals. This book should be mandatory reading.

I was in a dilemma with my survivor (and I am a survivor myself), and I found this book. I read it nonstop, except for the stories at the end which the author recommended I read slowly. This book is the most helpful source I have found so far for being a Partner. The perspectives are diverse, which is important because the attitudes between me and my survivor change. There is a little bit of something for almost every scenario. Mostly, the book provides a "yay! I'm not alone, this really does suck" feeling, which was essential for me to give myself an attitude shift and continue on. After reading this book I realized that my method for solving the dilemma I was in was not working for either of us, and I was able to find a good compromise and understand my survivor from a more fundamental place. I was also able to understand my own role as a Partner more intuitively. I am now seeking additional support as recommended by the book and my life is so much better already! Buy this, if only for the dozens of resources listed at the end of the book for where to get additional perspectives, reading, help, groups.

If you are on this page, then you should buy this book. I cannot express how helpful and eye-opening this book was for me. A book alone will not solve your problems, but this book helped me to see my problems from a different angle and that has made all the difference. Even if you don't buy this book you should know that 1 in 5 women and 1 in 20 men experience childhood sexual abuse. The statistics jump to 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men who are survivors of sexual assault or abuse at some point in their lives. While those statistics are incredibly sad, hopefully you can take heart in the knowledge that you are not alone. Good luck!

Could be written better

Decent book so far. I keep searching for books to help me understand the quandary that is my husband, but I’m never totally satisfied by any book I get. I do seem to get a little insight from each one though, which is something I guess. This book (from what I’ve read so far) is coming from the idea of your partner “dealing” with their childhood trauma. So far in my journey, I don’t know how much “dealing” my husband is doing. All I know is he has at least processed some of it. I’m just trying to figure out where I stand in all that bc his life is and always has been very centered around himself. This book touches on that for any spouse or partner who struggles with that in their relationship.

I am a man partner of a woman who was sexually abused {incest} By her father along with other abuses from men in her life. I was having a very hard time in our relationship not understand what the hell was going on.unfortunately I broke up with her before I bought this book.I can tell you without a doubt buy this book it was 100% hitting home on what { I} {WE } were experiencing WOWthis book is amazing Please do your self a favor and save your relationship and read this book.I am not sure what the future holds for her and I but I can tell you this if we do give it chance again I WILL BE WELL INFORMED WITH THE TOOLS AND UNDERSTANDING I NEVER HAD.If you love your partner man or woman do it.

This book really helped my husband understand some of my behaviors that didn't make sense in the present tense situation...because I was reacting to something that had happened to me in the past and not a current issue. After reading this book, it helped so him to understand that he was not the issue, that I had scars that needed healing. It helped him to assist me and walk beside me. Knowing that he was not the problem, he was able to love my scars as part of who I am. The scars are healing. I honestly feel like this book helped to save our marriage. He still, even after reading this book thru years ago, uses it as a reference. I highly recommend to anyone who loves someone who was abused.

Started looking thru the book and realized the first part of the book is missing. It starts at page 19.Otherwise it looks full of good info. Looking forward to writhing thru it.

There are many books dealing with survivors of abuse but this is aimed to help their partners. It is a little American in its approach and features more male partners of female survivors but is a useful guide for anyone who is dealing with the effects on their partner/significant other. It is easy to read and recounts various stories of partners of abuse victims. For anyone in this situation, it may shine some light on what is happening to your partner and help you feel not so alone or helpless.

A wonderful source of help and understanding. I would have been lost and in a bad place without it.

This is a great and valuable piece of work, and I'm immensely grateful to the author for creating it. Sadly, what I learned wasn't enough to save my relationship, but it helped me to understand why I couldn't save it.

Purchased for family member. One of the better books on the subject that gives insights as to how one can better help a loved one by first caring for themselves. Two thumbs up!

I purchased this book for a family member. I have not personally read it.