Don't Alienate the Kids (10th Anniversary Edition): Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce

This is the type of book that I hoped I'd never have to buy. If you and your ex-spouse (or soon to be ex-spouse) can keep your composure in front of the kids, you don't need this book.But "high conflict" divorces are different. In such cases, it's absolutely essential that one parent can keep their focus on doing what's right for the children while the other parent rages, alienates, blames, badmouths, and engages in all sorts of other counterproductive and damaging behaviors.If you're a rational and loving parent and your ex is doing everything they can to make your life difficult and turn your children against you, then this book is an excellent read. The advice boils down to being patient, keeping your cool, not reacting to provocation, and making sure your actions are in the best interest of your children --- and what's best for your children is usually interpreted by judges to mean having a loving and supportive relationship with both parents.There are numerous examples of high conflict divorce cases describing each parent's actions and the eventual outcomes. These are helpful to highlight what to do and what not to do when the other parent is making things difficult.For me, this book was well worthwhile to read and it helped me to maintain my focus throughout the most difficult of times with my ex and my child. I have years of co-parenting ahead and this book helped me to get things off to a strong start.

This new author is dynamite! Every book overflows with useful information, brief and to the point.

There are some good elements of this book but it perpetuates the stereotype of women as alienators and men as innocent. It is also very dismissive of domestic violence issues, especially sexual abuse. It says practically nothing about coercive control and emotional/psychological abuse. It seems this book is really written for the high conflict parent/alienator/abuser. It also puts a lot of the burden on the “reasonable” parent to accommodate the high conflict/abusive parent.

No single book covers the subject so well! Parental Alienation is a progressive disorder for children that advances from Mild and Moderate to Severe. Author Bill Eddy was a mental health professional first and then became a lawyer. Bill Eddy writes simply and clearly as he shares powerful, life-saving guidance. Buy a couple for your attorney too!

The four main skills once learned and put into practice would alleviate the pronounced strain on adversarial legal system which is a culture of blame.

Jam packed with important insights. Very little repetition! Don't go to court without reading this book. Don't separate or divorce without reading this book.