Don't You Dare Get Married Until You Read This! The Book of Questions for Couples

I think the most helpful aspect of this book for me was having something that I could 'blame' for asking my partner lots of questions without making it feel like an inquisition. We decided to do as others have recommended and write our responses to questions separately and then share them, so we wouldn't influence each other and could be sure we got to say everything we wanted to say.However, most of the questions are really things you should know about a person after a few months of dating unless perhaps you're long distance and don't both have Internet access. I went through and circled questions I thought might be interesting or relevant, and only circled about 80 of the 500 questions. Some of them are just silly, like "Does my nose hair bother you?" and some don't really seem that relevant to marriage like "What car best fits your sexual personality?" There's actually a whole line of questioning asking your partner to relate their sexual personality to a bunch of things including colors, music, animals, and famous people, which seemed unnecessary but possibly amusing. There's also redundancy in some of the questions, with basically the same question being asked under two different headings.A lot of questions were things that we already had discussed or just knew the answers to, even though my partner and I have only been together for a year. But it was reassuring to talk out some of the big things specifically, and there are some questions that I still am curious about.So considering it was only $4 with shipping, I'm glad I have the book, but I hope there are better books with the same premise out there.

While there are some questions in this book which My boyfriend and I found helpful in discussing our relationship, we both found a great many of the questions to be silly or obvious. To me, a lot of these questions should come up in a relationship long before marriage is on the table. Also, we found several questions either repeated in different sections of the book, or worded slightly differently, but placed in the same section. This could be just an editing issue, but was a bit annoying. Several questions read as if they are coming from a person who is angry or holding some kind of specific grudge from a past relationship; example: "are headaches or sore breasts going to be your way of saying get lost?" I found questions like this to be neither helpful nor thought-provoking. The author also quotes himself throughout the book, which comes off as arrogant. There is also a section toward the end of the book which tries to break down the concept of romance as a point system in which the man does things for the woman which are intended to be romantic, and the woman adds or subtracts points according to how romantic these actions are. This section is not only totally random, having been stuck right in between question 46 and 47 in the "annoyances" section, but reads like someone who understands men as child-like and selfish creatures who are clueless as to how to make a woman happy, and women as controlling people who rob men of the things they enjoy, but cannot be satisfied or made happy, really.I did not count the questions, but since the book advertises itself as containing "over 500 questions" I'll go with that number. Of the 500 questions, I would omit half due to repeats, irrelevance, or feeling too specific to a certain experience. Of the 250 questions that remain, I would omit half again for being issues that have already come up and been discussed in my own experience. So I was left with about 125 questions which were actually helpful and relevant to my own relationship and experience. I cannot say that I recommend this book to the average functional couple who are used to communicating freely with each other. However if you really do not talk with your partner at all, perhaps it would be helpful....

My long distance boyfriend and I got this book to have fun questions to talk about when our evening calls would get a little mundane. Not only did we have fun at some of the more lighthearted questions but also it was really great learning about each other in ways that hadn't come up organically while we'd been dating. Would definitely recommend to anyone doing long distance or just a fun way of getting to know each other.

I recommend this book to all my friends and family who are dating or engaged. This is already the 4th copy that I have bought myself becuase I keep giving it away for friends to use and keep. It's great for my husband and I to read now too to reconnect and strengthen our communication and connection.

I found this book on a blog on Pinterest and me and my fiance started doing the questions every time we go on a trip somewhere. We live in a smaller town so even a trip to the big city of Tulsa nearby is at least an hour and a half drive, so we get in plenty of questions. These questions are wonderful, I would have never thought to ask some of these questions without the book. We are learning much more about each other and really getting comfortable talking about things that you need to be comfortable talking about once you decide to get married. There are some questions in here that don't apply to us at all, because it does seem to be Christian based and we are not waiting until we get married to have sex, nor are either of us virgins, but I just skip over those questions and continue on. I would definitely recommend this book to friends who are getting married, as a matter of fact, this might be my new "congratulations you're engaged gift!"