Relationship OCD: A CBT-Based Guide to Move Beyond Obsessive Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear of Commitment in Romantic Relationships Paperback – 3 Feb. 2022

This book has changed me for the better and if you suffer with ROCD - or even think there’s a possibility you might - you should get this book. As soon as I started reading the book, it was like reading my own thoughts. I never knew that it wasn’t just me having deep relationship struggles, with overthinking little comments or aspects of my partner’s history, etc. I ruminate like crazy, especially in the evenings before falling asleep. I imagine every negative relationship scenario possible happening and I have a genuine emotional response to each one, and I hate it. I could leave my partner after a wonderful day and on a positive note, only to be cold with them out of the blue (to them) because I’ve then gone home and obsessed over what ifs and minor past tiffs.This book has genuinely made me feel seen - not to be cheesy! It also has helpful exercises to break down your thought processes and essentially rewrite them, amongst other things. Will it cure you? No, but it’s a start. Like with any mental health issues, you have to put the work in. The author highlights this themselves.If you, like me, were on the brink of a break up, get the damn book!! I bought it out of desperation and recognition I have a problem. It’s already started improving my relationship and I have excitedly spoken to my partner openly about the book and he is so supportive. I’m sure other folks will have the same positive response, good luck!

I have honestly never written a review for anything before but I cannot help but review this book. I have struggled with ROCD on and off all of my adult life and most acutely in the last 5 years. I often thought there was just something wrong with me that was unchangeable. And always wondered why people around me never seemed to struggle like I did which made me feel so alone. I am a therapist too and tried all the techniques for anxiety and worry (as I wrongly thought it was just worry that I was struggling with) that I use with clients on myself, to no lasting avail - which made me feel even more hopeless.But this book, I have only had it for 3 days and I literally can't put it down. It makes sense of every single thing I've been going through for what seems like forever. On the second day I noticed that I had not ruminated ALL DAY which blew me away by the end of that day as I normally am doing some kind of mental analysis constantly throughout the day. The surprising knock on effect of this? I wasn't floored with absolute exhaustion by the evening!I know that it will take time to really practice all of the skills included in the book and that its not going to be a quick fix, but I have been shocked at how quickly already this book has resonated with me and helped me after feeling so trapped in my own thoughts/feelings for so long.If you're trying to decide whether to get this book or another then just get this one, it's already my favourite book.

Honestly, it's the first time I feel so understood while reading a book. If you are obsessed with questions related to your relationship (constantly googling, comparing, worrying, not sleeping), read it and listen to the writer's ted talk and podcast in The OCD stories. She knows what she is talking about because she went through it. It doesn't replace therapy but is definitely an eye-opener.

Good so far, helps a great deal.

This book is a comprehensive analysis of how our minds as ROCD sufferers function. Its not judgmental and provides unique guidance that I find personally fulfilling.

This is the first ever amazon review I've written. I've discovered over the last year or so that ROCD has been the thing holding me back from all of the intimate relationships I've in and the one I'm in now. I've done lots of research into this matter trying to help myself in various ways.I have never ever resonated more with a self help book more than this. It actually had me nearly crying at some points because it felt like it knew exactly what I was going through and described everything so precisely. I read it in less than a week and I'm already implementing a lot of the practical exercises into my every day life. Anyone who has ROCD, please buy this book. You will not be disappointed.

One of the most comprehensive and relatable pieces of writing I've looked at on the subject. I felt more relief after reading this, than I did after 3 months of counselling. It doesn't cure you, but helps to put you on a better footing.