The Body Never Lies – The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting Paperback – 15 September 2006

This book is full of analogies. Doesn't help much with the actual reason.

I'm so excited for this book! I recently read (at the advice of a fellow EMS friend) Bessel Van Der Kolk's The Body Keeps The Score and found it very enlightening. From a person who suffered child abuse in every form of the word, the information in it really opened my eyes as to how much I jad been holding in my entire adult life. Not to mention the things I've seen in the back of the medic for 20+ years, it was such a great read. This book by Alice Miller has the same ideas about trauma and its effects on our physical well-being. Just the first few pages have already gotten my attention and has me ready to binge read this book tonight. Anyone who has suffered any form of trauma and/or abuse in any form should get these two books immediately. While they do not have all the answers, they do give you a leg to stand on and a beginning point to healing yourself so that you may have a better and happier life. I plan to build my library with a fee more of Alice Miller's books as I think they will be heavily beneficial to my life in general.

Great read. Miller accurately puts into words what I have been trying to convey for so long as a therapy patient. I’m still looking for the right help and now, thanks to this book, I have a more clear view of knowing what will be helpful and what not.

The concepts revealed and explained here are life changing. I realize I have been suppressing me and protecting others. These others don't care for my feelings or my outcome. Only I can change me. A door opened for me to understand myself and thus begin positive changes, when I read this book.

Alice Miller a fait un magnifique travail de recherche sur l'impact du "dressage" d'enfants .Se plonger dans ses livres permet de guérir la relation à soi et à ses enfants.

Alice Miller originally became a Freudian psycho analyst in order to deal with her own problems, but eventually discovered that much of Freudianism is merely false ideology, & the ONLY way she could learn the truth was through her patients. Later she publicly renounced Freud & returned all the certificates she was awarded by them. Publically admitting that you've been "barking up the wrong tree" for 20 years takes a LOT of guts. That initially impressed me, & also that she, unlike too many other psychologists, avoids "psycho babble". As her books cover a wide range, it's inevitable that different parts will affect different people in different ways. What resonated for me was her phrase "re-enacting childhood dramas". For me that was like finding the key of a long locked room & when I opened it, inside I found many things I was aware of, but never really understood before. As I began to understand more & more, I "stood" there in amazement, continually repeating to myself wow - w-o-w - W-O-W ! . I cannot even begin to explain how much her books have changed my life. Certainly she has turned me round almost 180 degrees & made me a MUCH better person ! Yes, there are a few who will try to slag her off or claim they were "bored" etc., but we need to understand that such people are in denial, & lack the courage &/or support they need to face up to their problems ( what such people need to understand is "IF YOU DON'T LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR FEARS, THEN THEY WILL CONTROL YOU ! " - unknown Spetsnaz ( Russian Federation ) special forces instructor ), & thus these problems will continue to cause untold misery that will not only ruin their lives, but also those of others who have the misfortune tocome into close contact with them - believe me, I've been through that myself & still have the physical scars & broken bones to prove it ! e.g. my "X" caused sufficient chaos to put me in the "wrong place @ the wrong time" & I was knocked down on a pedestrian crossing & received multiple broken bones, including a compound fracture that took almost a year to even start healing, which cost me 2 & 1/2 years of excruciating back painwhen I was "mobilised" onto crutches! More than 5 years after ( & now divorced )I was in a relationship with another woman who was also similarly abused in childhood. As her repression started to lift ( because she started to relax, as was then with me in her first healthy relationship ! ), she also took the easy way out by going into denial ( NOT just a river in Egypt ! ) & started playing "mind games" ! Having by now almost recovered from my first accident, I went out for a ride on my MTB to clear my mind - & got "side swiped" by an incompetent taxi driver who smashed up my collar bone, shoulder blade, elbow & hand - if I hadn't been wearing a helmet, I VERY much doubt I'd be here today to write this ! So take it from me that buying Alice Miller's books are not only the best thing you can spend your money on, but have the potential to, quite literally, be life savers ! - As far as I'm concerned not just parents & teachers, etc . should read her books, but they should be mandatory reading as part of the conventional education system! Jim