Save Your Drama For Your Mama

This was one of the most appalling books I have ever read. Someone at work upset because they're being bullied? That's their problem! A woman in her last years at work upset that she's being ignored after decades of service - manage her out into an early retirement! No insight into human emotion, behavior, or interpersonal dynamics. Are you a real human being with emotions about unfairness, nepotism, or subterfuge? Well, you're not welcome in Charlie Sheppard's corporate utopia! It should be called, "expect to be treated like an object at work." I was advised to read this book when I reporetd bullying and verbal abuse. Apparently it was my reaction to the verbal abuse that was the problem, not that it was happening.

Excellent book for a paradigm of how to deal with those people in your office who are overly dramatic.

Life is about choices. There are thing we can effect and things that may be beyond our control, but the one thing always within reach is how we choose to respond to the events and situations that occur in our lives. Charlie Sheppard’s book “Save Your Drama for Your Mama,” is about just that – taking ownership and making active choices whether to pursue a path of “drama” or of “leadership.” The book shows how a shift in mindset and an active decision to lean into leadership rather than reactive or emotional drama can completely transform outcomes. This book is a business and management reference (with lots of great case examples) but there are implications for everyday interactions both in and out of the office. It’s an accessible read full of practical suggestions whether you are experiencing or simply hoping to avoid dysfunction in your home or workplace!

I have had the opportunity to read this book and attend one of Charlie's seminars, and I cannot recommend this book enough. Charlie is able to distill and bring to light very complex and varied concepts and then put them together in a very practical and down-to-earth way. His handling of the "drama triangle" is clear and -again- practical. Although rich in theory, it is its applicability that sets this book apart from many in the field of leadership. Moreover, I believe the book is meant to help executives in business environments (which it accomplishes superbly), however, I have found that its principles also apply to personal life. I have used many of the concepts and suggestions described in the book in my relationships with other, and even in supporting my adolescent children. I strongly recommend this book.

This was a gift so I don't have a review

Cheers to Charlie Shappard for his contribution to leadership training. Loved the title!

Great

When you "Save your drama for your Mama" you don't take it past the front door of your workplace. Charlie Sheppard has written a great book on the two triangles that leaders can find themselves in - the Drama Triangle and the Leadership Triangle. "By being determined, by being a leader, you stay out of the world of the Drama Triangle. When you are out of drama, so is the world around you. When you are in the Leadership Triangle, you can be a leader, and create more leaders, directly impacting the world around you." Sheppard discusses the various roles we play - the Rescuer, the Victim, the Coach, the Visionary. No doubt it's pretty obvious where you want to be just from reading the classifications. But Sheppard makes the point that our choices are reflect in our behaviors from the roles we adopt in life. He writes "When you fully embrace a role, you embrace its power - or its lack of power. You embrace its potential - or its limitation. You eventually embody the role." He goes into great detail about our motivations - are they internal or external (locus of control)? One of the most important points is that leaders make choices. Leaders don't lead because they have to, but because they want to, they choose to and they are constantly developing themselves over the years. Leaders have vision which makes them catalysts for change, for progress, and are constantly coaching others to become leaders too. There is so much wisdom, common sense and information that hits home in this work that it is worth reading again; it should even be required. Sheppard presents concepts in his work which are seeds to be planted in our life, teams and community and "stored within these ideas is vast potential." You won't be able to read this book without getting at least one great idea or thought you can implement to make yourself a better leader.